The Unseen Child Within the Man
Behind the stoic face and guarded silence of many men hides a little boy — unseen, unheard, and unfelt. He who refuses to face himself does not truly love a woman; he feeds on her emotional energy, seeking validation for wounds he never confronted. His belief system is twisted by pain:
Love is a trap.
Affection is weakness.
Connection is danger.
The man does not walk on eggshells — instead, his unprocessed rage, often inherited from the mother’s shadow, descends upon the spouse who tries to heal him.
The Golden Child Syndrome
He was once the Golden Child — loved for his performance, not for his being. “I earned the pedestal,” he tells himself. “I must remain perfect to be loved.” This conditioning suffocates him internally. He exerts control, masks vulnerability with dominance, and confuses power with worth.
When his partner offers tenderness, he responds with criticism.
When she shows affection, he retaliates with control.
When she expresses vulnerability, he erupts in rage.
In her, he sees his mirror — not a partner, but a reflection of his wounds.
Two Paths of Origin
Every wounded man carries one of two childhood legacies:
1. Rejection: The boy was neglected, starved for approval, and carries deep shame and insecurity.
2. Idolisation: The boy was worshipped, placed on a pedestal, and grew to control and dominate to sustain that illusion.
Both paths breed men who are unaware of real love — men whose emotional compass is trapped between hunger and control.
Neuro-Rhythms of the Healing Mind
Our minds run on frequencies — invisible waves that choreograph emotion, focus, and healing. To heal, we must become the Arjuna who reins in the restless horses of thought.
| Brain Wave | Frequency (Hz) | Purpose |
| Delta | 0.5 – 4 | Deep sleep, cellular repair |
| Theta | 4 – 8 | Creativity, intuition, subconscious healing |
| Alpha | 8 – 13 | Calm focus, mental balance |
| Beta | 13 – 32 | Concentration, problem solving |
| Gamma | 25 – 140 | Expanded consciousness, memory integration |
Signs of Frequency Awakening
When the inner shift begins, the body and life respond:
– Aches in the neck, shoulders, or back — DNA regeneration.
– Sadness for past pain.
– Spontaneous tears.
– Career or life shifts.
– Withdrawal from toxic family patterns.
– Unusual sleep cycles and vivid dreams.
– Heightened self-talk and solitude.
This is not breakdown — it’s breakthrough.
Mantra for Karmic Cleansing
OM GANESHA RINAM CHHINDHI VARENYAM HUM NAMAHA PHAT
Meaning:
OM — Reality
Ganesha — Wisdom and removal of obstacles
Rinam — Debt
Chhindhi — Destroy
Varenyam — Most excellent
Hum — Removal of negativity
Namaha — I bow
Phat — Break obstacles
Benefits:
Chanting this mantra purifies karmic imprints, releases debts — emotional and financial — and establishes a new bio-field of spiritual clarity, decisiveness, and prosperity.
In Closing
Healing a man is not a woman’s responsibility — it is the man’s awakening. Love without awareness becomes entanglement; awareness transforms love into liberation.
When the boy within the man learns to see, feel, and forgive himself — only then can he love without fear, without control, without condition.
